Thursday, December 20, 2007

Pre-Christmas Party

mom with nat

our family portrait minus the 3.5 yr old who ran off but standing in her absence, her huge dora doll

my sis & her family


sis with nat (6 mths old)

We had a family gathering @ our home this afternoon followed by dinner. The girls had a wonderful time ripping off the wrappers of their presents.

It was delightful watching their happy faces and the anticipation. The 3.5 year old received a huge Dora doll and she loved it. She said in a serious expression, "I thought I won't receive a Dora, you know"... She also loved the Play-Doh set which I bought her. She had earlier watched a Play-Doh advertisement on telly and she confided in May... "I really liked a Play-Doh set but I don't think Santa Claus would send me one..."

My little niece especially liked the Cinderella night lamp and a trolley school bag which we bought her. I heard she fell asleep with her lamp lighted by her side.

The girls are so endearing and I wish for them a Healthy and Blessed year ahead of them and for many more good years to come...

After months of groaning and count down, we are finally going to head off to Bali tomorrow evening. Our luggages are all packed and we are ready to go except for some currency exhange.

Monday, December 17, 2007

Bloggin

Sometimes, my 3.5 year old views my blog via my laptop.

She enjoys lookin thru the photos and videos of our family and her life.

She gave me an idea. She said "Hmm, this is like a book, you know".
She's so right & logical. Her mummy is blogging bits & pieces of our life electronically.

A blog is like a diary (silly old me...), & therefore, should I've the chance, I should print out all the entries in colour and have it binded as a book and it becomes our journal.

My girlfriend took the trouble to copy and paste all our emails into a word doc for me. She even copied all our SMS conversation in a black book. I think it's so wonderful of her. I should really get into printing our emails and have it nicely binded as a book.

But I will keep it under lock and key as it contains girly information and secrets.
MOTH - this is out of bounds to you... Hehe.

Popularity @ Stake

I've encountered many friends and colleagues. Ladies.

They always smile so brilliantly like the sunshine and are so eager to help everyone at the work place. They try their best to please all co-workers. Perhaps they wish to be Ms Popular or Mrs Popular.

Yet when the requestors turn their backs, these ladies would immediately grumble and lash their tempers. "What do they take me as... a courier person?" or "Why're they asking me questions? Shouldn't they be asking you instead?"... The list of grumblings goes on & on.

I feel that if they are unhappy to be helping others, learn to say NO, REJECT... and assign the tasks to others.

An ex-boss once gave me a valuable advise which stay stuck in my head. "If you are so eager to help others & be Ms Popular, then don't complain. Otherwise, learn to say NO."

I shld be so LucKy

I received my letter today. I raised my eyebrows at the figure.
I was surprised by the payout as I didn't expect the amount.
But the increment is disappointing though - not exactly in line with economic situation & performance basis.

Ah, never mind, I thank my lucky stars to receive a red packet from the co.
I know of others in my company who are under contract, therefore, they will not even receive extra in their December pay packet. When their contract ends in a year, I'm not sure if they will be retained either.

The second thing I feel so lucky about is my MOTH. Whenever I'm down or worried or sick, he will pick it up immediately. Even if I keep all quiet and not say a thing, he knows about my feelings right away. Is this what we call telepathy?

I made my third visit to the Chinese Physician on Sun afternoon. His clinical assistant told me that there's no need for me to have acupuncture this week. Phew, I heaved a sigh of relief. Another sign of luck? She told me that I need some herbs for application to my feet... Hee... I was really elated and thrilled, I thought I had escaped the clutches of Chinese medication... My face fell at the prescription counter. I was given an large bottle of Chinese medication (to bottoms up) + 2 smaller bottles of pills... Ay yo. HELP!

Sunday, December 16, 2007

School



Photos taken: w/c 10 Dec 07

Fun Cookery - The children learnt to make 'Rainbow Truffle' and they had fun crushing cookies, mixing the cookie crumbs with milk and cocoa powder, and rolling them into little balls. And for the final touch....sprinkle with lots of rainbow beads. Yum! Yum! See the 3.5yr sucking her thumb - must be good!

For their Christmas project, they made their own paper Snowman. After reading the story of 'The Snowman', the class came up with different ideas to decorate our snowman. Finally, they agreed on a yellow scarf, red eyes, yellow nose and blue buttons (using bottle caps) and a colourful baseball cap. It looks so cute!

Ps. My 3.5 year old is in orange-tee shirt.

Saturday, December 15, 2007

Season to Be JOllY

Tis a season to be jolly... starters, shop till we go dead-broke. The sales for this season is really so tempting. I can't help but to pamper myself with new lingerie, new tees, new jackets, new crocs, new shoes, new swimwear + the loads of presents under the tree for my family.

Why am I making a list of items which I purchased? Given my damn bad memory, I'm bound to forget what I spent on and I'll hit the panic attack button when I see my bank balances.

Actually, I feel damn guilty coz I'm supposed to be saving up for a rainy day.

I'm a bit loop-sided with my spending. I found a cost-efficient provision shop near my neighbourhood. Last weekend, I congratulated our family for saving over $3 per tin of milk, $0.30 for tissues... etc and here I am, spending money on other stuff.

Grrrghh...

For the past 2 weeks, I have been making weekly visits to the Chinese physician for acupunctures and bottling down dutifully 2 big bottles of Chinese medication since. The Result? Great! The constant pains & water retention seem to be under control and bearable. I'm beginning to regain my sanity and I'm not as depressed as I was in the earlier stage. I'm going for my 3rd treatment tomorrow.

Don't tell my boss, the Chinese physician & Santa Claus about this - I was naughty this Friday. I hit a bistro with Ms Diva R at lunchtime. Both of us had 3 glasses of sparkling wines each and we were giggling non-stop for feeling "high" during office hrs. I had problems typing my emails and answering phone calls. Alas, the highness is short-lived. The moment a stack of invoices landed on my desk, I went right back to work attacking the paper work.

Oh-la-la. C'est la vie!

Sunday, December 9, 2007

Christmas Mood




Our first Christmas tree.
Our home is now filled with a beautiful scent given out by our pine tree. The presents are all wrapped up and ready to be given out...
To feel the festive mood, we made our way to Orchard Road on Saturday evening. We walked through the street, admiring and enjoying the lights. Our last stop was at Raffles City with the giant tree. The 3.5 year old was so happy and thrilled...
and she is completely smitten by Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer... watch how she jingles along with the song.

Ps... A note to my friends ~ Sorry if I've not been actively in touch or replying to your emails or missing our dates... my body discomfort, illness, medication has drained out my energy and on certain days, I struggle to pass through the pains. I hope that you will understand. : )

Turning 31








26 - 30 Nov 07

I turned 31 on the 26 Nov. I was blessed with well-wishes from several of my good pals, treats from my colleagues (A wonderful lunch from Ms Diva & a suprise cake when I was in the midst of scolding the guys) and you won't believe it (A PRESENT from my BOSS???).

MOTH sent me a big bunch of roses. I don't know why but I blushed when I received his flowers. We had a nice quiet dinner at a Vietnamese restaurant in Mhd Sultan over a few drinks and nice Vietnamese & French cuisine.

In my younger years (which was not too long ago), I enjoyed having a few wild nights a week at Mhd Sultatn. But now the once happening partying district has become all cold and deserted. The pubs which I used to frequent had winded up.

This has been a great year for me except for pending health issues. Never mind, I'm sure I'll recover and get better soon with all these medications and treatments.

30 Nov 07
Took leave to accompany the 3.5 year old for her medical follow up. We made a dash and made it in time for the Dora the Explorer performance at United Sq. Wow, there was a big crowd but we queued and made it into the front row. She was so excited and happy to watch the Dora performance. "Ahem", even her mummy was singing and jingling along. It's a real interactive performance compared to Barney or the Seasame St ones. Great show!

After the show, I took the opportunity to do Christmas presents shopping for my nieces and the 3.5 yr old. We spent a great afternoon together.

In the evening, I had a date with my good girl pals for a belated b-day party. They drove over to my place and we made our way to TM for a sumptous dinner at BaliThai. It was such a wonderful dinner and we took the whole night catching up. They even visited our home and stayed for a chat till nearly 11pm. I am so glad to see them after such a loooong time.


Friday, December 7, 2007

School



- week of 26 Nov 07

Monday, November 26, 2007

Movie Review: Joyeux Noel

25 Nov 2007

I bought this French movie, Joyeux Noel, from Alliance Francaise around 1 year ago and since, I haven't had the time to watch the movie.

As I made plans to go to the hair salon and be spending 5 hrs there, I decided to bring along my laptop and the vcd. So as I was sitting and waiting for my hair to be set, I took the opportunity to watch the film with my ear phones plug in. I recommend this movie greatly.

It's filled with human touch based on true stories that happened in WWI. The earlier scenes showed the war between the Germans, the French and the Scots. Bullets and bombs flying all over, dead bodies... but on Christmas Eve, a miraculous exchange happened.

It started with the Scots playing their pipes and singing. Then the Germans joining in by singing Christmas carols and finally, the different regiments (Scots, Germans & French) threw their hostilities aside and set their guns down on Christmas eve. They had exchanges of conversation in their own languages with whisky & cakes in the no-man's land. On that night, they even had a Christmas Mass together. On Christmas Day, the Lieutenants agreed to give all the dead a proper burial. Parties from all sides attended the funeral and said prayers for the dead.

This exchange is now referred to as Christmas Truce and the soldiers run the risk of being charged for treason. Through the exchanges, the soldiers turned into friends/brotherhood. They watched out for each other and deliberately gave each other shelter against ammunition and bombs.

Alas, this is short lived. Soon their superiors intercepted their letters and found out what had been happening...

Trailer of the Film: http://www.ifilm.com/player/?ifilmId=2693014&pg=&skin=tomatoes&refsite=6081&launchVal=1&mediaSize=default

Shots of Love


Acknowledgement:
Photographer: George Seet
Camera: Nikon D300

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Meet the Family session

We met my family today (minus MOTH) over lunch, coffee break, dinner & coffee break.
We didn't do much except sit around, eating and drinking. Actually I don't recollect if we had some proper exchanges of information.

Everytime my mom meets her grandchildren, she would give them a really huge bag of sweets and chocolates each. Children being children will then get "seduced" by the goodies. If they spend the whole day out together, they will be munching non-stop. If I'm not around, my parents will allow my kid to continue. You know why? Out of fear that the child will scream her lungs out in public. I rather she scream her lungs out in public than to suffer months and months of medication daily.

My 3.5 year old had too much to eat today (I am referring to the non-nutrition stuff). She started coughing again. I was a bit stirred up. For a long time now, I had wanted to suggest that my mom stops giving out goodies bags like Santarina. I finally did so today. I told her that it's fine to give her grandchildren goodies but in a smaller portion as the children cannot control their urges. She then argued that they must've their sweets as they're always expecting her to give them out. I reminded her that it's nice of her to hand out sweets but as the parents, we are paying the price. What's the price? Constant visits to the doctors and hospital. Plus expensive monthly medical bills. They, as grandparents do nothing, contribute to nothing towards caring, nurturing or loving this child.

At the end of today, ie around 9pm, the 3.5 year old decided to threw her tantrum as a farewell. She wailed, cried, screamed. I knew she acted this way as she's tired. She didn't have a nap the entire day. In fact, she wasn't entertained by the whole day trip at Orchard Road spent mostly sitting at the cafe.

I told my family to leave her alone in her room. As usual, they refused to heed my advice. They tried to sweet talk her... and her wailing got even louder. It was so extreme. They asked me to give in to her requests. I flatly refused. If my child wants my attention, she gets it but through the right way. She will not get my attention by wailing for it. I want her and I need her to understand "basic respect and politeness". Actually my parents have no right to preach to me. Should I had behaved in this manner when I was a child, my father would give me one tight slap immediately. He won't even care to give me a hug.

I told them to leave her alone. My temper raised when her Auntie May went up the stairs to give her attention. This time I raised my voice and asked her to get her butt back down. May had no choice not to leave her alone.

Excuse me, I'm the child's mother. Though I give her credit for caring for my child while I'm out at work, it doesn't mean that she can override my commands or decisions.

Friday, November 23, 2007

Meet The Teacher Session

MOTH & I went to the 3.5yr old school to meet her teacher.

Don't worry, guys. It's not a complaint session, rather this is a progress report.
In summary, we were told that our 3.5 yr old has matured a lot, able to take on responsibilities to care for other children, gracious in sharing, imaginative, articulate... she is however weaker in numbers and has shorter attention span.

Her teacher observed that the 3.5yr old is always play-imagining a baby. She asked very straightforwardedly if we plan to have another baby as she said that our 3.5 yr old is surrounded by her little friends already having baby brothers and sisters to play with.

Ahem...

One month ago, I noticed that the 3.5 yr old has already gotten the ability to recognise alphabets. She will pick up leaflets, start pointing out the alphabets and pronouncing them.
She's now able to sketch her mommy, her daddy, her auntie and her pet snake. Her daddy has a round face with large eyes whereas her mommy has a slimmer, longer face. So these are huge improvements. I believe that she has benefitted from the time she spent in school and also with her auntie May.

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Inflation

The hottest topic is the papers these days (other than ASEAN summit, Myanmar, Pakistan) is regarding the 5% inflation reported to be the highest ever in 25 years history.

It also drew my attention to raising costs of groceries and higher expenses of living.

I realised that in the beginning of the year, we were paying $19.50 for a tin of milk. Currently, we are paying $21.50. That's a $2 raise. If I didn't calculate wrongly, this implies an over 10% of price increase in milk. I frown at this finding. This is milk for my kid. I can't simply switch brand or not purchase milk.

Before, we were spending under $120 a week for groceries and sundries. Now, we are spending between $150-$200 per week to top up our supplies.

I have always been very careless with my finances and require a knock on my head every now and then to be more careful. So last week, I started a spreadsheet to show a record of our family's expenses. I think it's time for me to be aware of what we are spending. Example, my maid is always requesting to purchase cleaning detergents. I'm simply hand out the cash without knowing the price of each labels and how often is our requisition. Hmm... not a healthy practise.

The other hot topic in my office is regarding the salary increments for employees. Though we work in an oil & gas company, profitable, the salary increments are horrendous and unfair. Why do I say horrendous and unfair? The company in regardless of economic, political, employee's performance, has always allocate between 1% - 3% of salary revision yearly. This year, we experience GST increase by 2% and now with inflation of 5%, even an idiot like myself understands that a pay adjustment between the percentile of 1% - 3% would not allow employees to manage their household expenses.

In fact, this is one of the reason why I kinda boycott attending french lessons. Last year, I received a 2% pay adjustment. After CPF deduction, I am drawing aro $80 more per month. The scenario is this... French lesson begins at 6.30pm and ends at 9.30pm. To attend this lesson, I usually beat time by commuting via taxis & have dinner at the cafe. As a result, I could spend aro $50 that evening x 4 times a month = $200 of additional expenses to acquire a language for work. But then the company doesn't reimburse for such expenses, and after working my sums, the increment does not even cover the additional costs. The company doesn't even give me examination leave to prepare for the tests.

Maybe some of you would feel - you could commute via train or pack your own dinner to save cost.

I do not agree that I've to fork out my annual leave, extra time and extra money from my miserable pay packet to finance the language course. I am a working mother and therefore time is very precious to me. When I was taking the course, I had to sacrifice Wednesday evenings. Even by taxi, I arrive home only after 10pm. I cannot imagine how long it will take for me to commute via the train and then via bus.

Especially since English is the agreed business medium in Singapore, why should we be expected to take up this additional language for the convenience of the corporation. Perhaps the HR should organise to send the Parisians to English lessons instead. The world is evolving. Isn't it time for the French to accept global changes and challenges?

In the event should I become a fluent french speaker, what does it symbolise?
More appreciation, more salary, more advances, more advantages?

Actually with my character, if I do master the language, I will not hesitate to lash out at those incompetent ones in their mother language.

Monday, November 12, 2007

MOTH supports EGG?

Je ne comprehend pas. Pourquoi? Mon mari comprehend les decisions de mon directeur.

J'ai besoin penser à la situation. Peut-etre que je ne suis pas raison avec mon jugement.

Je ne sais plus et je ne suis plus la classe française. Parce que je ne suis pas heureux avec mon directeur et ma entreprise.

Thursday, November 8, 2007

Book Review: Bangkok Tattoo

I first learnt about the author from a magazine. He is a British but had worked in Asia most of his life as a lawyer and then took a career switch to become a writer. Since then, my curiosity was aroused. Not really by the content of his book but more about his career switch. How can one take such a drastic change? So I hunted his book down at a rental book shop.
This is a thriller about murders with severed penises, prostitution, political scenes. As the title suggests, the story is set in Bangkok and about tattoos. I enjoyed the twist of the story as I never expected the ending to involve a Japanese tattooist who enjoyed gambling. He knew his works were well- soughted after and therefore, he placed tattoos of his clients as bets to yazukas. When he had lost his bet, his client would be hunted down... the yazukas will carefully peel off the skin of the client bearing the tattoo. The skin would then be carefully preserved.
Bloody. But thrilling and some parts, sexy.

Master Piece Revealed

To view, visit:
http://being30.blogspot.com/2007/10/work-in-progress.html

Not Again!




8 Nov 2007

aro 3am

It seemed that I barely fell asleep to hear knocks on our bedroom door. It was the 3.5 year old crying. She's fallen sick and she's telling us that she cannot breath. Poor child. She came up to our bed and fell asleep. Shortly after, she woke up, crying, insisting that she needed to look for her auntie May. The cycle repeated till nearly 6am. She told me that she had to go and see a doctor. She said she's feeling very uncomfortable. A part of me struggled to comprehend this request. It's only 6am and I barely slept. So I was really tired. But as I observed the tiny body sitting limply on the bathroom floor, struggling to breath, I realised that I mustn't take her request lightly. So off I went to get dressed and we headed out.

I was laughing at our luck. There was no way we could have boarded our lift as someone had threw up and made a big mess. So me with my old limbs + carrying the 3.5 year old, made our way down the stairs. Fortunately, it was only 8 flights of stairs. When we finally made it to the void deck, it started to pour. What luck?!?

The doctor and nurses confirmed that the 3.5 year old has acute bronchitis. She has a temperature, unstable supply of oxygen in her body (94% is considered unfavourable). She was given 4 doses of inhaler to rid the phlegm and to open her airways. On top of that, she had to inhale supply of oxygen. The doctor had wanted to ward her for observation. At the very last hour, her oxygen level increased to 96%-98%. (We were there from 6.30am-10.30am)

She cried real bad with her first dose of inhaler. She was screaming "Melly... Melly..." The nurses burst out laughing. But then she managed to grab a couple of sweets from the nurses and calmed down. She even made friends with the nurses and doctor.

The price I had to pay for her bravery... S$36.00 for 2 bunnies. She said she's a RABBIT MUMMY. Hmm...

Secretly, I wonder if KK Hospital would soon open up membership for regulars with entitlement to discounts. We've been regular visitors for the past couple of months. Some level of discount would be very much appreciated.

This was filmed while she's in the observation. I was amused to see her so calm and reading a magazine (as if she's so grown up).





Ps. The pixs of her above were taken while she's inhaling her supply of oxygen. She looks so radiant that you won't imagine her being sick or not having slept the entire night. It's wonderful to be young.



Monday, November 5, 2007

Sunday, November 4, 2007

Our Weekend

Sat, 3 Nov 07

We spent our Saturday hiking through the Kranji "battle site" into the Sungei Buloh Wetland Reserve. The 3.5 year old had anticipated that it would be a long walk and she insisted on bringing along her pram (which came in handy as she rested on it while her parents struggle to push the pram along the rocky terrain).

We were hoping to spot birds but we were greeting by lots of mozzies and were given a couple of love bites instead. Actually, the birds were frightened away by the loud noises we produce from pushing the pram. Despite the afternoon heat, we were sheltered by greens and enjoyed our walk. Along the way, we were given welcome by the residents of the jungle & mangrove swamps (such as kingfisher, pigeons, eagles, storks, water hens, clovers, monitor lizards, squirrels, crabs, mudskippers, etc).

I felt much better on Saturday as I didn't suffer from inflammation and I survived the day without my painkillers.

Sun, 4 Nov 07
Fear kinda strike me when I realised that I didn't have the strength to hold my cup, and my lunch tray. My hands were trembling when I was holding heavier utensils. For the entire day, my joints were burning and there were red spots on the areas where my joints hurt.

Emelia & Her Little Friends

I think that was the boy WANTED for holding my daughter's hand.

"Hmm... When will I grow that tall???"



Victory Sign... We finally have a group pix taken without crying!


"Okie, let me check if your heart is functioning?"

Photos taken on 29 Oct, Monday @ School during their fancy dress party.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

DOC IV

I've been diagnosed with reactive arthritis. Accordingly to the specialist, this is caused by my recurrent UTI. The body immune system is now reacting in the presence of bacteria and therefore causing swelling & inflammation of my joints. Fortunately, this condition is chronic and can be treated. Though it scares me when I read that some patients take up to 6 months to recover.

I really hope that I will take under 6 months to be up and running.
Now even climbing up & down the stairs seem to be like conquering Mount Everest. Some days, I can't even feel my limbs and am suffering with pain.

Monday, October 29, 2007

WANTED

THIS BOY IS WANTED FOR HOLDING THE HANDS OF MY DAUGHTER!!!

DOC III

I made time to ring my gf, Mdm Quek today and had a nice chat with her catching up on our families, our health, our experiences.

As I shared with her regarding the pain I'm constantly experiencing, she encouraged me to go to the doc for another review and get a proper diagnosis for my health. (As I'm typing and updating my blog, my knee caps are burning with pain.) I'm glad I heeded her advise and got a referral to a specialist. I understand he's a well-known consultant in this field. I will see him tomorrow morning for another thorough checkup.

I spent the rest of my afternoon over lunch, shopping & coffee with another gf, Ms Diva R. She listened patiently to all my complains and pains. After the afternoon outing, I really felt better. I think chatting with my close friends help to heal my pain and suffering.

Journey into the Enchanted Jungle




28 Oct 07, Sun

We decided to spend our Sunday afternoon hiking into Bukit Timah nature reserve. The little one wanted to visit Bambi in the jungle. We hiked for 4-5km, taking around 1.5hrs. Along the way, we enjoyed the greens, looking out for animals (we spotted squrriels, monkeys and different types of lizards and birds). But sorry, no Bambi though. It was extremely cloudy weather and as we were hiking towards the golf course, we heard the storm alert.

Fortunately, we managed to walk out towards Thomson Plaza without meeting the storm. The storm arrived only after we had a drink, nice chicken pies and when we got into the taxi. If only we're so lucky when we purchase lottery or TOTO...

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Work In Progress & Completed Artwork



8 Nov 07 - Finally completed my artwork. I love the rainbow & the after rain effect in the sky. Makes me think of rainy season, cool weather, Christmas & putting on black stockings in Singapore. November is one of my favorite months of the year. Maybe because I was born in November or perhaps it makes me think of holidays.

The Raffles Hotel Iconic Doorman

In 1992, we were commissioned to produce a collage artwork for our o-levels art examination. One afternoon, armed with a camera, we went around the streets of Singapore snapping photos of our local scene. I can never forget the day - while taking photos, I was also cursed by ah-mas (who hated having their photos taken due to supersitious reasons). But my girlfriends and I had fun. We even took the opportunity to relax at the Raffles Hotel.

I believe I had 36 photos to select from and my art teacher picked this photo for me to work on. The photo was enlarged and then photocopied to A3 size. Using a carbon paper, I traced the image onto a wooden board and painstaking using bits of magazines and glue to form the collage as close as possible to the photo.

I remembered I spent many nights glued to my little stool, and working on this artwork till wee hours of the morning. Often I was chatting with my friend over the phone as well. MOTH was my regular phonepal. I enjoyed chatting with him while working on my artwork. (But guess what, we never turned our friendship into a relationship)...

My mother kept this artwork for me. Finally, I brought it home. HOME... long time ago, it seems like an impossible dream and wish. It has now been framed and will be mounted on the wall by the man who kept me company during those long nights 15 years ago.

Interestingly, I found an article regarding the iconic doorman. He has aged too (but gracefully)... http://www.raffles.com/rafflesworld/news_05.html

Je Suis Petite

my initial painting


my final work



My painting is completed and now in the right place.



Right in the heart of my daughter's bedroom.










Children












A picture speaks a thousand words.
The smile of a child warms the hardest day.
I wish my arms spread out like the wings of an angel.
To keep my child safe & warm.
When the time is ripe,
to give her the strength to soar to the sky,
& live her dreams.